Many parental units are not “techies” and openly admit they are not. They seem to use that as an excuse to not be informed. They then proceed to trust their children to do what is right in an environment that is clearly risky.
When it comes to your children being online, there should be a set of household rules that are in place and followed. Otherwise no online connections.
Therefore, your house, your rules.
n: The rearing of a child or children, especially the care, love, and guidance given by a parent. One who begets, gives birth to, or nurtures and raises a child.
Nothing there about “except when they are online”.
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This is the excuse many parents use when it comes to computers. However, now that parents are just as adept with their hand-held computers a.k.a cell phones, there is no excuse to not monitor what their children are doing via text, TikTok, Snapchat or Facebook.
Almost every day, you hear about children getting involved or exposed to topics that any decent parent would not approve of. Or as is all too often the case, troubled children who do terrible things.
The world discovers their activities online and are shocked. Why didn’t anyone know what was going on?
Now is the time for all good parents to come to the aid of their children.
Just because they may “know” more than you doesn’t negate that you are still the parent. And you do know what is best for them, regardless of the venue or device, right?
Guidelines and Rules to Keep Your Children Safe Online
Keep your computer in an open place.
Such as the family room or rec room. No negotiation here. Online activities are only allowed in this public area – when you are home. Allow a computer connected to the Internet behind a teenager’s closed bedroom door and you are asking for trouble.
Keep your computer and online connection password protected.
Use passwords that cannot be guessed by ingenious teenagers. This way, if you are preoccupied or not home, online access is not possible. Change your password on a regular basis when they are not around. Better safe than sorry.
Advise your children that they are not to give out their full name, address, city, state, phone to ANYONE.
No reason whatsoever to give out this type of personally identifiable information online to anyone without your knowledge and supervision.
Learn as much as you can about technology and the Internet.
Learn how it really works including how to use your smartphone, computer and browser so that you are aware of the potential problems your children can run into. (After they are online, use the drop down bar in your browser’s location bar to get a hint of what they have been up to.)
Parental Control Apps for tables, laptops and smartphones.
Be sure to install any one of the many filtering software apps that help prevent your children from being exposed to topics that would make you cringe. Check out: The Best Parental Control Apps. Remember, software is only a tool – not a replacement for your involvement.
Review their messaging to “friends”.
Look at the individuals and pages that they follow to see what they are being exposed to. You are not spying. They have no privacy while being a minor. It is your job to watch out for them.
Check their texts and emails every so often.
To see what who they’ve been communicating with and what they are typing about. Here’s where a cellphone app comes into play. You are paying for the phone and connectivity, you have the right to monitor and limit how that device is used.
You hear stories in the news all the time about police stings, pedophiles making contact with children or wacky teenagers running away to hook up with their newly discovered online love. Or worse.
We all know that as teenagers we didn’t know squat in regard to communicating with strangers or what “love” was. Heck, I thought I was in love with Bobby Sherman! Yeah, I just dated myself.
Their life experience simply is not in place yet to make mature decisions. It is your job to monitor them.
Children should have no expectation of privacy on devices and services you are paying for. That’s part of life and your children need you to be their guide as they use technology.
Watching over your children’s online activity is not an invasion of privacy. Children do not have privacy until they are 18, are paying for their own devices and servoces and move out! (Or is that around 30 now-a-days?)
Online monitoring is a sign of a caring parent who is involved in the activities and information their children will be exposed to online. Yes, it may be frustrating and require parents to learn some new things along the way. Power through and learn what you need to in order to protect your children.
A computer with an online connection, a cellphone or tablet are not a babysitter. Nor is it a valid excuse to not be involved because we didn’t have cellphones and computers as children.
Learn, get involved and be part of your children’s online experiences. Look at it as another activity you can share together.