When those who disagree with me on the concept of E-mail Etiquette send me an e-mail, there is always an abundance of “I”s. For example:
“I prefer to…”
“I think it is up to me…”
“I do what I want when…”
“I do it because…”
“I think you are a…”
News Flash!! Courtesy and manners are not all about you.
By definition courtesy means you think about others. You cannot claim you are courteous if all you think about is what you want to do, say, ignore. It is about taking the time to think about the considerations and issues that can affect others based on your choices and actions. E-mail Etiquette is about using technology with knowledge, understanding and courtesy. Not about what you prefer to do to the exclusion of all else.
the showing of politeness in one’s attitude and behavior toward others
What do I say to those whose only excuse to not practice proper E-mail Etiquette is I, I, I?
Well, it is all about them really — just not the way they think it is. I explain that they can in fact choose to do what they like and disregard established guidelines and common courtesy when it comes to E-mail Etiquette. That is their choice to make and one which will determine how they will be perceived by those they communicate with.
To be always thinking about your manners is not the way to make them good; the very perfection of manners is not to think about yourself.
~ Richard Whately