Almost every day I get e-mails from concerned Netizens all worried about how to nicely ask a “friend” to quit forwarding chain letters, hoaxes and jokes to them. To add salt to the wound, many of these “friends” take the liberty of sending these silly e-mails to their contact’s business e-mail addresses!
What happens when asked to please not forward those type of e-mail — especially to a business address? Hurt feelings. What is there to get “hurt” about? All the Sender did was click a name and add it to the list of others they sent to. There is nothing overly personal, time-consuming or thoughtful about these actions to take it personally when someone simply asks that the Sender refrain from doing so in the future.
There is a correct way to forward e-mails. If everyone followed these guidelines, there wouldn’t be any hurt feelings because there wouldn’t be this mass mailing of thoughtless dribble being forwarded to everyone who listed in another person’s address book.
One should never assume their contacts would want these e-mail in the first place. When asked to stop forwarding these type of e-mails, all one has to do is humbly apologize, honor the request and most importantly — not get hurt.
Today a site visitor asked if I agreed that “a simple request to stop forwarding e-mails like this shouldn’t destroy a friendship right?” To which I replied, “if it does, well maybe there wasn’t much of a friendship there in the first place.”