Believe it or not, I get a handful of e-mails every week asking what is proper, from an e-mail etiquette point of view, for a married person to do with those of the opposite sex via e-mail.
This weeks topics ranged from if it was “O.K.” to send adult content to those who are not their spouses, if flirting is dishonorable when done by e-mail and even if having “e-mail sex” is actually cheating.
The folks who e-mail me probably know my answer before they hit send, however, they ask for my advice anyway. They then are upset when I offer my opinion — that they asked for — with a surprised and scolding tone. Did they actually have hopes of getting some level of approval for their inappropriate e-mail behavior by e-mailing an e-mail etiquette expert?? Really?
If you are an adult you know what is right or wrong. You don’t need to e-mail some Web site on the topic of E-mail Etiquette to know that doing any of those things is not proper for a married person to do with anyone other than the person they have taken vows with.
Just because you can; doesn’t mean you do. Just because you think you won’t get caught; doesn’t mean it is “O.K.” This is where your morals, ethics, integrity and character come into play.
If you do things that you know your spouse would not appreciate via e-mail — you have betrayed their trust.
The true sign of character is how you behave when no one is looking or if no one will find out. Look yourself in the mirror instead of e-mailing me and ask how you would feel if your spouse were doing the same to you (“it’s only e-mail”) and you’ll know if what you are doing is proper “e-mail etiquette.”