At least a couple of requests come in each day inquiring about what a person is to think when they don’t get a reply to their e-mails. The natural inclination being “they don’t want to hear from me” or “they are ignoring me.” To which I respond that, usually, I do not think the lack of reply has to do with you — it has to do with them!
We live in a me, me, me – busy, busy, busy world. Our society is really self-centered and one of the reasons why my E-mail Etiquette site exists. One thing is clear, you shouldn’t expect others to behave as you think they should — they are not you.
What I do is to step back and think “outside of Judith” when I run into others who don’t think as I do. I always try to look at their motives, or lack thereof, before I assume. If they are habitual non-repliers — stop e-mailing.
You comment wondering if they are ignoring you — if you know for a fact they received your e-mail — is probably true. I have several contacts who will not reply when I do not offer the answer they were looking for or if I disagree with an incorrect assumption they may have.
I know they received my e-mail. I know they have responded promptly when they like what I have to say. But when they don’t like my recommendations — no reply. So, they are in essence ignoring me.
I don’t let others lack of courtesy change how I am. I will always take the time reply (in most cases) to those who e-mail me. Once again it’s all about common courtesy!