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True Friends Reply to Emails

Email Etiquette Means Friends Reply to Emails

Do you have folks that you email — and crickets? Then, maybe, a couple of weeks later — they reply in some cases ignoring the content of your email to comment on what they want to write about.

Your communications are on their terms. Not a good feeling, right?

I know everyone is busy. I’m a pretty busy person as well. But I make an effort to respond to those who email me promptly. Not just because I run two email etiquette websites, but because that’s just what you do.

The exception, of course, is those who send me sales pitches or offers. I didn’t ask for that pitch, nor am I interested in your request. Therefore, I don’t feel that I am obligated to respond.

Family and Friends are Different

Why is communication a process?

It is through the communication process that the sharing of a common meaning between the sender and the receiver takes place. Individuals that follow the communication process will have the opportunity to become more productive in every aspect of their profession. Effective communication leads to understanding.

In this day and age, the email that is not received is rare. Especially by those you communicate with regularly. Over time email software learns who you communicate with, so the chances of your emails landing in spam or junk folders are minimal. But, even then, the email is received.

The proper etiquette is to have the courtesy to reply as soon as possible. Sometimes folks have busy schedules, are away from their computers, or may not think a reply was necessary. But that doesn’t negate the courtesy of replying eventually.

If we are honest, written communications are just as much relationship builders as phone calls. When we reach out to communicate with others, we share a bit of ourselves with the person we are communicating with.

What if you are really busy and just don’t have the time right here and then? Then, reply as soon as you possibly can. There is an expectation of a speedy reply with email because the sender knows their email is in your inbox shortly after clicking Send.

Being Ignored Hurts

This is one of the dilemmas I get emailed about quite a bit. The frequency hasn’t changed in the two decades that I’ve been running this website.

If you don’t respond, the other side will assume you ignore them. To that end, I’ve actually had site visitors reply that “they intended to ignore” the person they didn’t respond to.

Wow. Then why not be honest with that person and let them know you don’t think further communications are a good idea and wish them the best? Because it is easier for you to be a coward.

Especially with friends and family, they deserve a reply, a sit-down, or a phone call if they reach out.

Passive Narcissism

Most times, however, I don’t think onliners are making a conscious decision to ignore those who send them emails. But in our rush-rush, never-enough-time culture, it is easy for many to do just that.

From a Senders point of view, make sure your email is clear and concise and one that the recipient will want to read and reply to. If you would like a response, ask for one. “Can you please let me know?” “I look forward to hearing back soon!”

Email with Value

You should not expect a reply from forwarded emails where you don’t take the time to type a personal message as to why you are forwarding that email to that particular person. If you can’t make that effort — don’t expect a reply.

Some folks are so “all about me” that they really don’t think about how their lack of response impacts those who care about them. If that is the case, I would have to reconsider continuing to email someone who cannot even show you the simple courtesy of a reply.

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