Are You the E-mail Initiator?

A site visitor inquires:

I am casual acquaintances with someone and email them occasionally, on a social basis, and they answer. But, it occurred to me that I am the one who always initiates the emails; the only time I get emails from the other person is when they are responding.

I’m tired of it and decided to stop always being the initiator, which I know will basically mean the end of email communication with this person. Or is it normal for one person to usually be the one to extend themselves and maybe I should accept that and continue to email? I hate to end email communication but also have my pride! Thank you.

I understand how frustrating that must be for you! I get e-mails almost on a daily basis on this topic! Could it be the other person is truly very busy? It could be you taking the first step is appreciated as that gives them the opportunity to communicate with you. They are responding and not ignoring you, right? I would make my decision more based on how they respond vs. on pride and having to be the initiator alone.

If they respond in kind with details, are chatty and really seem to enjoy your e-mail, I would continue. However, if the replies are terse or abrupt, maybe just forget about it and wait until they contact you.

On the other hand I know I have a person from my past that will e-mail me on occasion. I never e-mail them first – because I am really not interested in reinstating our relationship so I am cordial and polite. I just don’t have it in me to ignore folks who take the time to e-mail me.

I think you know in your gut based on their replies if they want to continue to hear from you. And, if they don’t — their loss. Spend your time communicating and forming relationships with those who appreciate and are open to your efforts.

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